"And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:13
Women need to feel loved. Often, the way a woman responds to her husband depends on how much love she feels from him. Christ's love for us is the ultimate love story of all time. "No greater love than this that He lay down his life for His friend". Feeling loved is not only a desire, but a need for women. "But what if I don't feel loved by my own husband?" Many women ask this question. My response to this would be "How is your relationship with the Lord?" Often times, women are looking solely to their spouse to find their security. Although our husbands do play a significant role in "completing us", they cannot and should not be responsible for who we are as a woman.
Before discussing what women can do to improve intimacy in their marriage, I feet it is imperative to be sure women feel love from their almighty creator first and foremost. "For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." Ephesians 2:10
In my opinion, all women struggle with insecurities of some kind. We believe that who we are as individuals is what we see when we look in the mirror. We see flaws and imperfections which society and magazines have led us to believe don't exist.
Christ's love is opposite of the world view of love. "Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you. I do not give as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid". John 14:27. God sees us for who we are on the inside. He has created us in his own image, and He does not make mistakes. Therefore, every curve, birth mark, ripple, and blemish on our body was intentional and is God's beautiful creation.
Now, how does all of this tie into intimacy in our marriage? How does knowing Christ's love for us help us to love our husbands more intimately? It's simple, when you know who you are in Christ and where your true identity lies...you can love yourself and even your own body image too! When we love ourselves and feel confident with who we are then , as a result, we are more comfortable with being intimate with our husbands. Once we are able to grasp this concept, fun in intimacy can begin!